Do you ever feel like you’re people pleasing in order to validate your value?
Do you care what others think about you?
Ever since we’ve been kids, we have been programmed to love praise and success.
From your first words to your first steps, your parents and loved ones have been praising you when you did something good.
Fast forward 25 years, and you are still looking and longing for that praise and approval.
Empaths are known for people pleasing because of how deeply they feel emotions.
They can sense when someone is upset, and because they want everyone to be living in a state of love and happiness, they will alter their behaviour to help others.
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You crave that congratulations speech and wait anxiously for that fame and glory that comes with a massive accomplishment.
Now I’m not saying that praising kids for their accomplishments is bad, or that some of you messed up your children if you did.
What I am saying, is that we haven’t outgrown that desire to please, and have finally started facing the consequences.
You have fallen into the validation trap.
The trap that keeps you:
from changing the way you behave
acting to impress
holding back as to not offend
saying yes to gain approval
We are living in a world where we care SO much about what others think of us, that we forget who exactly “us” is.
I came to this realization just last night.
I had worked hard to make dinner for my family, clean up, bake, and much more.
By the end of the night, I was angry I didn’t get a pat on the back or even an acknowledgment for my actions.
It was a crazy thought, and yet it made me think a little about people in general.
You are told to be your own person, “you do you”, or whatever other catchy quotes are floating around.
Yet, that very action also requires you to step out of the 25-year pattern of programmed thinking.
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It’s asking you to ignore the negativity, the criticism, the unwanted attention, and be the person that may piss people off, walk a path others didn’t expect, and lose friends along the way.
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This is asking A LOT from you!
Especially for Empaths, the act of tuning out the negativity and criticism is extremely difficult and exhausting.
How to Know if You’re People-Pleasing is:
– Start performing acts of random kindness
Don’t tell anyone, just perform 1 task a day for a week, and see how your body and thoughts reaction to this.
You may feel love, gratitude, empathy or joy.
When those thoughts are primarily pride, honour or superiority, that’s a clear sign you’re people pleasing.
You are associating your self value on others opinions and reacts to you.
If you start feeling the need to tell other people your small acts of random kindness, that is a good indicator that you may be looking for outside validation in your life.
Don’t think it stops there though, this feeling and need to please can spread over into your relationships, work, personal life, and health.
However, when you stop looking for outside validation, you truly know what freedom is.
Not freedom from your responsibilities, but from your thoughts.
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Those negative beliefs that stop you from quitting your job, from stepping away from an unhealthy relationship, or from releasing yourself from your past baggage.
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Freedom to say how you feel, to act the way that is of your highest good, and to live your BEST life possible.
What you’ll feel when you stop People Pleasing:
Less desire to be around negative people
More grounded and sure of your actions and thoughts
Less anxiety and stress
Improved quality of life
Massive energy shift/ better mood
Amazing financial, romantic and personal opportunities
Stop looking for validation, and start walking your own path!
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Grateful for Today,